Do Not Trust That Man

Every lady want to loved by a man beyond her father or brother (Okay, some have chosen to be nuns).

Every woman want to be special to the man of her dreams when she finds or discovers him (let me know if you have a different opinion)

Sometimes the desire to be loved and accepted by a potential Mr. Right (gone wrong) can result to trusting a rogue in the days of its calmness be it faked or seasonal.

Trust is a word that gets thrown here and there in the circles of relationships. The question is not what trust is, there are sufficient definitions to prevent me from trying to make another define, the question is what are the tell-tell signs of a man you should not trust?

1. The man of many stories.

He will try to convince you with so many stories and explanations of why, what and whatever that you end up being confused or having red frags flying all over his connecting stories. He has half backed stories that do not add up. He has a sweet tongue. He will entangle you with so many ropes that before you know it, you will be in the deep and dark looking for a way out.
If a man is not clear on what he does, who he is, who are his friends, what he really likes, and such, watch out. If he vanishes and then resurfaces with a cat-and-mouse story, do not trust him. He is the kind that bites soothingly. His is a dark heart and he can not be trusted.
And for those of you who think that this man is not found at the places of worship (wacha niseme church), You are wrong. I have been around the church, approaching three decades, born of a man of the clothe, the best guess is that the third place I visited was the church (ask me the other two and I will tell you, that is if you do not know and you wanna know). So, I have seen quite a lot. The church is where saints and sinners meet as the Lord works on all of them to live the best of their life here ob earth and the rest in heaven for those who walk the Living Word. It goes without saying that there are men at church who are still a real WIP (Work In Progress  - One of CPA Tutors used to call this Wairimu In Prison - It is his joke, I should not steal it)
Before I make this a church issue, I must say that I care for Christ-Loving Ladies and so I had to put that point across. That if you meet a man of many stories (if his career is story telling, he is not in this category) tell him to go tell his stories to the trees.

2. The man who takes you for a bank.

Who has no shame taking a pizza you have bought and then even goes ahead to ask you for a loan which he promises to repay next week. This man will even lend in your name. He will use your good name to get some bucks. It should be hard for a man to borrow money from a lady, and if he borrows once, it is inevitably so.If a man comes for a second helping of the bucks in your bag or bank, he is stinking and smeared with the don't-trust-me stuff! Be emphatic. Say no and say never (to both of his advances).
If there be a man out there who has your money, and you are not a Shylock or a credit organization, if you there be anything to call a love relationship between you and him, if you are not absolutely sure that the money you gave to them is for which purpose, if the money is not in an income generating venture of which the profits are being used for a good course, like repaying the money he owes you, then be worried. Unless you gave him the money as a way of giving back to the society, a man should not eat and drink from your sources, gain more weight and still come back to you. He is the kind that should not be trusted.
If he is addicted to anything liquid or solid, you needed to have closed his bank account at you yesterday.

You are not playing games with you life, nor with your heart. You do not trust people who are not faithful, first of themselves, and then with money. (Okay, maybe that is my rule)

PS: I know you are born again. I am too (If you are not born again, confess Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior right now!) I know you think he can change and that is good. However, please allow God to work on him until he is in a state worthy to be trusted. Men do not change men, the Maker of men change them.